I recently read a study conducted by the CDC which revealed that 1 out of 10 teens (both boys and girls) admitted to using coercion/force for sex. We need to teach ALL of our children about rape. If consent is not FREELY given, it is rape.
As a white, straight male, I have recognized that I have a lot of societal privileges that women do not have. I have more privileges than minorities and gay people, too. Sometimes with privilege can come this sense of entitlement and the mindset that you can take whatever you want. That is why it is especially important to teach our male children that just because they may have privileges that others don't have, it does not make them better than anyone. It does not entitle you to do whatever you want, including raping someone. I don't think it's so much implying that our sons are rapist as it is to make sure both boys and girls understand rape and understand that you are never entitled to someone's body. We teach our children to respect someone's property, we need to do the same to someone else's body.
It's sad because at a young age, we feed our children this mindset that men are better, more powerful, and more deserving than women, sometimes without even realizing it ("don't be such a pussy", "you throw like a girl", "man up"). We need to teach our boys to respect girls so that men will respect women.
I realize that I'm probably preaching to the choir here, but this really infuriates me. It infuriates me that there are people who feel entitled to sexually assault someone. As a man, it infuriates me when the media keeps quasi-blaming the victims because of the outfit they were wearing. It is incredibly offensive to me that in this day in age, women are seen as temptresses to tempt men and these men just can't control themselves. This is offensive because it has nothing to do with the outfit, it has to do with certain men feeling like they have the right to assault someone. We need to stop saying "she shouldn't have been wearing that" or "she should have been with a group". I agree that we should focus on what the perp SHOULDNT have done.
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