iammelinda 
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Re: “Sexual assaults near CofC highlight problem of victim blaming

In an earlier post, someone mentioned the types of sentences that go along with sex offenders. I did want to point out, though, that those are only the convicted rapists. There are so many more rapists that don't get convicted due to "lack of evidence", the survivor being afraid to report, etc. I've always been a little torn about the sex offender registry because I have used it when looking for places to live, but I feel like it also gives us a false sense of security. Since only about 40% of sexual assaults are reported to police, it's very scary to know that there are so many non-convicted offenders around, unbeknownst to us. We really need to take sexual assault crimes more seriously, educating potential perpetrators, and holding perpetrators accountable.

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Posted by iammelinda on November 6, 2013 at 8:42 PM

Re: “Sexual assaults near CofC highlight problem of victim blaming

Rockalde, you made many excellent points. I suppose what really bothers is that even if you were mugged, regardless on whether you took precautions or not, society wouldn't blame you. You would not be scolded for being out too late and alone, wearing too nice of clothing (to entice the mugger), etc. We can't keep scolding the sexual assault survivors because truly, the only ones at fault are the perpetrators.

I actually heard the above mugging analogy from the woman who wrote the article below. She makes some excellent points and I invite anyone who is interested to read it.


http://pamelajacobs.com/2013/04/30/hello-world/

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Posted by iammelinda on November 6, 2013 at 2:33 PM

Re: “Sexual assaults near CofC highlight problem of victim blaming

JAV, I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and people need to do anything in their power to make them feel safe. However, as someone who volunteers in this field, the rates of rape are so high, even among those who felt like they were doing everything in their power to protect themselves. There are plenty of women who take all of the precautions to "avoid" being raped and still get raped, then end up blaming themselves. Helping to shift the focus onto educating potential perpetrators is really the only thing that is going to lessen the rates of rape. From what I've witnessed and from the information that I've gathered, victim blaming or these attempts to educate women to be "safe" isn't really curbing the frequency of sexual assault.

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Posted by iammelinda on November 6, 2013 at 2:20 PM

Re: “Sexual assaults near CofC highlight problem of victim blaming

"(...) the young women need to realize that they often put themselves in danger." Are you kidding me? With that comment and mindset, you are helping to perpetuate rape culture and victim blaming. The only way to prevent rape is to NOT RAPE.

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Posted by iammelinda on November 6, 2013 at 1:09 PM
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