Rewind to the beginning. Brown didn't want her, and he, multiple times and in multiple ways, said as much. He even signed legal relinquishment, and, though he claims he didn't know what he was signing, that tells you how much he cared. He didn't want to be responsible. V's biological mother chose this family to raise the child she hadn't. Veronica was four months old when Brown changed his mind. Can you trust him to be a reliable father? Nope. It would be child abuse to simply return Veronica to him without a fight. I would have no respect for the Capobiancos if that's what they did.
You've got this one wrong, Haire. If this is what you believe, then you need to work to change state laws (in the vast majority of states) that automatically strip biofathers of their rights when they refuse to have a relationship with their child. How long DO you think a bio parent should have to change his mind? And where should V have stayed in those four months, in the Holiday Inn?
You're also failing to realize the much farther reaching consequences of this court battle. ICWA is racist. Native American children should have equal rights to stable, loving homes - not fewer rights, under ICWA. It's harmful to children and families, and needs to be amended.
Unfortunately, when there are racial hurts they don't heal easily. I can absolutely understand the NA viewpoint on this case. But the fact is that none of this would have happened if the biological father had decided to take responsibility for his child from the beginning. We simply can't let bio parents, whatever their race, decide months down the line to take children from loving adoptive homes.
Incidentally, the adoption WAS finalized this week after all the appeals. Biodad appealed again to the Supreme Court of the US for a stay of the adoption, but on Friday August 2, SCOTUS denied his stay 7-2. The adoption is final.
June 25, 2013 SCOTUS ruling: "the South Carolina Supreme Court held that certain provisions of the federal Indian Child Welfare Act of 1978 required her to be taken, at the age of 27 months, from the only parents she had ever known and handed over to her biological father, who had attempted to relinquish his parental rights and who had no prior contact with the child. " SCOTUS reversed this decision. Please think about it. An unwed biological father doesn't want to take responsibility for his child. The child's biological mother can't care for her on her own, so she lovingly finds an adoptive home for the child. Do we really want birth fathers to be able to change their minds whenever they want, and come in and take that child? If this were not an Indian child, the SC Supreme Court never would have erred. If you're NOT an Indian child, you're protected from being taken from your loving adoptive parents - but if you're an Indian child, you don't have the same rights. In my book, all children should be given the same rights. At this point, if you see the pictures of Brown and his daughter, they look really happy together, and I'm sure they are. However, you have to remember that he was a deadbeat - for four months. Some people will tell you he looked long and hard for his child during those four months - but court records show that he didn't. Bottom line - how long do you think a biological parent should have to step up? And where should their kids be in the meantime?
"her seemingly inability to recognize" needs some editing ;)
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